I can't remember what I was googling today but I came across someone's blog. They said they've had trouble making friends their entire life and couldn't understand why. They'd been bullied and teased as a child and even now, today, they felt ostracized by others. At the end of the blog they wrote "please help!" Along with that blog there were many other people who wrote that they were in a similar situation and could relate to the trouble of making friends as an adult and not having any close friends.
We all look for acceptance. Some people go through life and they seem to have plenty of friends and have no trouble meeting them and keeping them. With others it's a constant struggle to feel a part of the group. I think most of us have been in a situation where we felt alone, but can you imagine not having one friend to call? To have absolutely no one in your life to connect?
My guess is that somewhere along the way from the bullying and teasing this person maybe lost a bit of their self esteem and worth. Maybe they listened too much to what those bullies had to say and it stayed with them as they grew up. My RAOK was to simply write on this person's blog and tell them that weren't alone and to not give up. That one day they would meet someone with similar interests. I also said to keep loving themselves even when it didn't feel like anyone else did.
The power to be your own best friend is one of the most valuable assets you can have. This includes being good to yourself, not putting yourself down and forgiving your own mistakes.
Are you a good friend to you?
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